Why healing heartbreak is key to softening into your feminine energy

Have you felt the desire to relax into your femininity but don’t truly trust it? You may be having difficulty trusting your heart – and thus yourself. Healing heartbreak is a pivotal step in deepening your access to your feminine power and creating a life you truly love. Here’s why. 

Experiencing heartbreak is a normal and everyday part of life – whether it be romantic in nature or other life experiences such as death, lost friendships, or even professional disappointments. 

Healing your heart will open you up to so much power and courage allowing you to connect with the intimacy of your womb more deeply. 

For some context, let’s take a look at a few of the ways our heart can respond to heartbreak.

As we experienced disappointments and we don’t take the time to heal a few things can happen:

1. We shut our hearts down to protect ourselves – letting no one in
2. It becomes so hungry for love we sacrifice healthy boundaries letting any and everything in without proper discernment. 
3. Our hearts weaken and begin to lack in conviction

A closed heart keeps the things, including emotional upset, at bay. The upside of this is it keeps the bad things out. And for a time, especially in the beginning this may seem to work. However, with time as life begins to become a bit dry and lackluster we may realize we’ve also kept the good things out. 

It is scary yet important to begin to learn to trust again, beginning with ourselves. Which can be very difficult if you have been the victim of gaslighting in important relationships in your life. 

A healthily open heart creates the space for intimacy and vulnerability. Setting healthy boundaries and being clear about our needs and wants in a relationship help reinforce your self-esteem and self-worth, key elements in feminine magic. It also creates a pathway to re-cultivating trust in relationships – creating the space for intimacy and vulnerability. 

And this is where the juice of life lives – in the crevices between intimacy and vulnerability. In these crevices lay deep, bold love, radical transformation, and dreams realized. Dare to live there. 

A weak heart compromises your vision and creativity.  A weak heart lacks conviction. This is one, I am very familiar with. Up until my 30th year, my life wasn’t perfect but professionally, it was pretty safe. I hadn’t taken too many creative risks close to my heart. I also had been relatively successful in this area – little risk, little failure. 

Then in my 30th year, I decided to take a leap – I launched a blog site that was creative in nature and also allowed me to flex a different type of muscle in my leadership skills. I failed. In my mind, I did a terrible job – in hindsight, I probably just didn’t stick with it long enough to see it through or have the courage to take certain risks that were necessary when the opportunity presented itself. 

My conviction was already a bit half-hearted but then, due to the failure, which I wasn’t very familiar with – my confidence was shaken. The conviction of my heart was weakened further and this stifled my vision and creativity for years. 

You see when your conviction is weak you doubt what is possible. So you may have the vision and creativity to see a thing through however, you don’t believe it. This can show up in many ways, such as confusion, fear, procrastination, and subconsciously making ‘mistakes’ that thwart your efforts. 

Trust me I know all of the above. 

It may seem like things aren’t working for you or you can’t make a decision. When underneath what is really happening is that your lack of conviction and faith blur the path given to you. You can’t see it because you don’t believe it. 

A healed heart fuels your vision and creativity. Healing heartbreak and reconnecting with your conviction, courage, and boldness will have you seeing clearly again – also boosting your creativity and productivity. 

Unconditional love, authenticity, and courage are feminine superpowers of the heart and throat respectively. Reconnecting with these gifts, realign you with your feminine power – a gift that keeps on giving.

A healed heart fuels more healing. The beauty of all of this is that healing heartbreak fuels more healing, growth, and transformation. As you heal your heart more of your feminine power becomes available. 

Having the courage and patience to take the time to heal your heart will reward you over and over, again. 

Take the time to consider where you’ve been closed off or weak in your conviction and self-love.  Make the commitment today to begin healing your heart chakra – the simple intention will put the healing into action. 

When you’re ready to dive deep – join our Heal Your Heart Challenge and go deep in healing heartbreak, releasing pain, setting new standards to heal and protect your heart, and creating new boundaries to support your process.